I hate when people say this. It’s because of this that I’ve never attempted to ever start any interaction with a girl, because I know it’s not going to turn out like porn, because all of you brainwashed me into thinking “porn is not real life”. I’m 24 and have never had a girlfriend or even held hands. And as time goes on, it gets worse and worse. I’m destined to be a virgin forever because you guys told me porn isn’t real. If I assumed porn WAS real this whole time, maybe I would’ve been more likely to start interactions. Because then, there may be a chance it could turn out like porn.
Addiction to porn destroys men’s love life – and women’s as a consequence. When you have been exposed to that drug and you’re making love to a real woman, you still wish you were making it to the virtual creatures out there, meaning you’ll never be satisfied (and neither will be your partner, obviously).
Let’s not mention other, extreme consequences, such as children raping children, a relatively common occurrence nowadays, which was unheard of before porn became legal, free and ubiquitous online.
There has been thorough scientific research on this. Here is a good summary :
I really wish my parents did more to stop me when I was young. I took a lot of steps to make sure that didn’t happen but that’s what addictions will do to you.
You’re not the one to judge someone based on your own personal bias. Even though it can be addictive, it’s still not a big deal for most people. If the person affected by the porn to the point of self-destruction, then it means that this person has more drastic mental problems apart from porn.
I’m not judging them, I’m trying to convey to this individual that porn is not good for them. I understand the influence porn has, because it’s something me and my partner have both been through before. It is highly addictive and apart from that it comes with all kinds of negative psychological impacts that can be detrimental to relationships(family, marital, etc). Watching it to the point of being self destructive is what’s called… an addiction. And yes there may be numerous factors that play into that scenario, however in this situation, pornography is the underlying addiction & issue.
This is a literal psycho approach. You don’t know his family, you don’t know their religious background. Yeah, them finding out would put an end to it, most likely by putting an end to their child’s life.
How is it a psycho approach? I don’t understand what’s wrong with parents being aware of and controlling the type of content that their child is or is not allowed to watch, at the end of the day its their child that they take care of and have ultimate say in what they’re child can and can’t do under their roof. I don’t see the wrong POV? And I don’t get what you mean when you say putting an end to their child’s life, please clarify, because from my POV, porn can ruin this child’s life and so can just about any addiction, them watching it, especially while they’re so young, only increases the risk of addiction and the risk of the negative impacts and because of the wording of their post, I get the impression that they’re already dealing with an addiction, or at the very least a series of very strong urges, maybe they’re still in puberty? I really do not look down upon this child, I’m just concerned for them that they’ve stumbled upon something that they don’t understand that can seriously harm them in numerous different ways, I do not wish for anyone to go through the same things I put myself through. I also understand some of your POV, because I used to believe porn was healthy in some capacity, but ultimately now I firmly believe its extremely harmful.
Edit: I’ve just realized that I already had a discourse with you on i2p stuff a month ago; this world is really small, or some unknown deity destined me to argue with you every time I visit reddit.
Really? What were we even talking about on i2p? I don’t recall which specific conversation you belong to. Edit: nvm I found it.
Edit 2: I’d also like to add, that regardless of how you feel about porn, I can say with absolute confidence, that anyone would be happier ditching pornography in exchange for positive relationships, whether that’s with God, your family or a partner, which is ultimately the point I’d like to get across.
I said probably because I don’t know if a VPN actually does it without making mistakes, I’m not a fan of VPNs and don’t use them very often. Why you shouldn’t use them at the same time can be found here: r/TorWithVPN
Moonlight Bunny Ranch outside of Carson City could help with your virginity, however; they are likely to be expensive.
First things first, by looking at OP’s account I think that he’s an adult, but that doesn’t change my main point very much. Parents finding out something about their child, that they very much don’t like whether by religious or personal preference, can sometimes result in very harsh punishment that will deteriorate mental health in even worse way than porn even could; or, if we’re talking about an adult, they might even kick him from the house.
All of these things will ruin the child’s life, which is why I’ve wrote: “…them finding out would put an end to it, most likely by putting an end to their child’s life.”, or this sentence can also be interpreted in a more darker way — suicide. This often happens in very strict Muslim or Christian households: parents finding out something “dirty”, which results in various physical and verbal abuse, which later ruins a child mentally, so after some time kid’s going to have some suicidal thoughts and it’s a matter of coincidence whether he will commit them or not.
Hence it’s important to think of every possible outcome before writing:
Its a good thing if they find and put an end to it.
I might be overthinking, since I do that quite often, but this sentence is what sent me off in the first place. You can’t know whether them finding out is a good thing or not, which is why I called it a psycho approach. If you would’ve really liked to help OP, you should’ve asked what kind of parents he has first, instead of outright saying that it’s good for them to find out, not knowing what kind of parents are they.
If parents are abusing their child for any reason, then there’s something deeper than the pornography. That should never be an excuse for abuse, nothing is. I assumed OP was a child because of the wording and the nature of the post and the fact that they’re still living under their parents roof. Parents have every right to know what’s going on in their home with their children, the decisions they make after finding that information out can be right or wrong, outside of anyone’s control except their own. Any loving parent should be doing their absolute best to refrain from any abusive behavior towards the people they love, that’s part of what love is. Children are going to make mistakes and parents are going to find out about them, that’s the nature of the beast, so hiding information from them may add fuel to the fire. Situations in which keeping secrets don’t really ever result in positive outcomes compared to the counterpoint reality where the secret was never kept in the first place, something that I also had to learn the hard way. I want OP to experience a positive outcome, and everything I say is from what I learned from both experience and the bible.